BDSM safety is of the utmost importance! There are many, things that may go wrong when conducting BDSM acts in a incorrect manner such as unneeded/unwanted pain, injury, rubbing, muscle injuries, unwanted bruising and others. 
Using a toy or tool in BDSM incorrectly will make cause pain, bleeding, injury and will make the other not want to try it again. Please be mindful of the other person if using a new toy or tool as this is meant to be pleasurable for both. 
SET UP A SAFE WORD OR USE THE TRAFFIC LIGHT SYSTEM.
ALWAYS set up a safe word or use the traffic light system before even planning anything regarding BDSM! I cannot stress this enough, some sessions can get intense when both parties are in the correct head space and the last thing you want is to really injure each other. 
SAFE WORDS:
Setting up a safe word is one of the easiest things about BDSM, think of a word that will never come up in the act. Such as, computer, carrots, television, tennis, booze, ice cream, book or whatever you can think of. Setting up a safe word will make sure both parties stay safe, whether you're a dominate who thinks you're going to hard or a submissive who is not enjoying a toy, say the safe word and everything needs to stop. Untie, sit/stand up and take a breath. Step away from the session and calm down. BDSM can get really intense, it should never result in any permanent injury.   
TRAFFIC LIGHT SYSTEM:
Much like a safe word, the traffic light is there to keep both parties safe. It's a simple system to set up, think of two words that will never come up in the act and set them as 'yellow' and 'red'. 
Yellow meaning keep doing what you're doing but slow down/go softer/take it a bit easier, I like that but ease off a little bit. Red meaning stop everything, I want it to stop. 
NEVER CONDUCT BDSM ACTS WITH SOMEONE WHO WON'T SET UP A SAFE WORD OR THE TRAFFIC LIGHT SYSTEM. 
USING A NEW TOY OR TOOL
When using a new toy or tool it is best to either look up how to use it effectively or talk to someone who has used such a thing in the past. Using it improperly will turn off one or both from trying what could be the best thing they have felt/used. Follows are some examples of toys and tools.
STRAP ON'S/PEGGING:
Strap on's are a perfect example. They're designed be emulate a penis, both men and women enjoy having this used on them, for men who may not be into men however enjoy anal simulation or women who wish to use it on another woman. Used properly they're the perfect toy to keep in the bedroom for kinky fun however as the anus is a muscle, putting a large object into without lubrication or allowing time for it to relax then it will cause pain and possible bleeding. 
If you're just starting out, use a small, thin dildo and use plenty of lubrication. Once you get used to the smaller one you can get gradually bigger if you so wish, remember, it is not a competition to see who can take the largest. Get in the right frame of mind, learn to relax your anus doing so will help minimise resistance. The anus is quite a sensitive area for everyone please do not try to put anything up with out lubrication and time to relax. 
Another use is for men to wear a strap on in order to emulate the feeling of double penetration for a woman, there are specially made strap on harnesses that will allow a man to wear while leaving the penis free. These come in many different styles, like a dildo being help on via a rubber ring that is attached to the base of the shaft and ball sack. 
To find the best on for your sex life, try looking around, go to your local sex shop or website and see which will be the best. You might just find something perfect for your next session! 
ANAL BEADS:
Anal beads are something everyone knows about but not many take part in. Anal beads are a simple toy, they are inserted one by one, with lubrication. The pleasure comes out pulling them out slowly and one by one. Some will vibrate to give that extra feeling of pleasure however, you must NEVER take them out as fast as possible nor go past the last bead. It is toy and a person not a rip cord on a lawn mower! 
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